I'm an R rated individual

By David Heinemeier Hansson on April 27, 2009

I've found that the fewer masks I try to wear, the better. This means less division between the personality that's talking to my close personal friends, socializing with my colleagues, and for interacting with my hobby or business worlds.

Blending like this isn't free. You're bound to upset, offend, or annoy people when you're not adding heavy layers of social sugarcoating. I choose to accept that trade because my personal upside from congruence is that I find more energy, more satisfaction, and more creativity when the bullshit is stripped away.

This means that it leaks out that I love listening to Howard Stern, that Pulp Fiction is one of my favorite movies, that I laugh out loud at Louis CK's Bag of Dicks joke, that I whole-fully accept my instinctual attraction to the female body, that I think drugs should be legal, that I really like the word fuck and other gems of profanity, and on and on.

Now I get that lots of people find much of that crude and primitive. I'm okay with that. I do take offense when yet another lame stereotype is thrown out (like that porn by definition is misogynistic), but I've learned to deal with that.

What I'm not going to do, though, is apologize for any of these preferences and opinions. I'm happy to be an R rated individual and I'm accepting the consequences of the leakage that comes from that. If you can deal with that, I'm sure we're going to get along just fine.